We all know difficult conversations are part of working life — whether it’s giving feedback, challenging a decision or admitting something’s gone wrong. But while much of the focus tends to be on what to say or how to say it, there’s something even more fundamental that often gets overlooked:
Psychological safety.
Without it, no amount of carefully worded phrases or conversation frameworks will land well. With it, even tough feedback can be delivered with clarity, trust and respect.
So, what exactly is psychological safety — and how does it help us navigate difficult conversations?
Psychological safety is a term coined by Harvard professor Amy Edmondson. At its core, it’s the belief that you won’t be punished, judged, or humiliated for speaking up — whether you’re sharing an idea, asking a question, admitting a mistake, or disagreeing with someone.
In psychologically safe teams, people take interpersonal risks. They challenge the status quo. They say, “I don’t understand”, “I think we missed something”, or “I have a different view” — and they trust that their input will be welcomed, not resented.
It’s not about being nice or conflict-free. It’s about feeling safe to be honest.
Why It Matters for Communication
We often think the hardest part of a difficult conversation is the message itself — the feedback, the conflict, the “no.” But in truth, the hardest part is often the fear surrounding it.
People fear they’ll:
- Damage relationships
- Be seen as confrontational
- Say the wrong thing
- Look weak or emotional
So, they avoid the conversation entirely. They say nothing. Or they dilute their message to the point of confusion.
Psychological safety lowers the temperature. It gives people permission to show up with openness, not just performance. And it creates the conditions where difficult conversations can be honest, clear and productive.
Isn’t Psychological Safety Just an Individual Mindset?
It’s a fair question — and one we hear often. “Isn’t it up to the individual to feel safe and speak up?”
Here’s the reality:
Psychological safety is a shared responsibility — but it starts with leadership.
Yes, individuals can choose how they show up, how they communicate, and how much risk they’re willing to take. But the conditions that make those behaviours possible — or punish them — are shaped by the organisation.
If someone’s punished for raising a concern, they’ll stop raising concerns.
If challenge is met with defensiveness, people will stop challenging.
If mistakes are met with blame, they’ll be hidden.
You can ask people to be brave, but if the environment doesn’t support that bravery, you’ve got a culture problem — not a confidence issue.
As Edmondson puts it:
“It’s not about being nice. It’s about creating a climate where speaking up is expected and valued.”
So yes, everyone plays a role. But if leaders aren’t modelling safe communication, and organisations aren’t creating structures that support it, psychological safety simply won’t stick.
What Happens When Safety is Missing?
In low-trust environments, difficult conversations become high-stakes risks. That leads to some familiar workplace behaviours:
- Feedback avoidance: Managers sidestep performance conversations. Team members don’t raise issues until they boil over.
- Passive agreement: People nod along in meetings, then privately disagree. Innovation stalls because challenge is missing.
- Mistake-covering: Rather than owning a problem early, employees hide it — fearing blame or shame.
- Burnout and resentment: Silence takes its toll. Small tensions build. Frustration goes unspoken.
Ultimately, when people don’t feel safe to speak, everyone loses.
Building Safety, One Conversation at a Time
Psychological safety isn’t built in a single training or team away day. But it is built through consistent, intentional communication — especially in moments of discomfort or disagreement.
Here’s how teams can start:
- Model vulnerability
Leaders who admit mistakes, ask for feedback, or say “I don’t know” send a clear message: honesty is welcome here.
- Listen without fixing or defending
Really listen. Let people finish their thought. Pause before responding. It sounds simple — and it builds trust fast.
- Ask open questions
Instead of assuming, ask: “Can you talk me through what happened?” or “What’s your perspective on this?”
- Practice the hard stuff
Like actors rehearsing emotionally charged scenes, teams can build confidence through experiential practice — before they hit the real-life stage.
How We Help
At 1948, we believe great communication is a rehearsable skill. You don’t build confidence or resilience in the heat of the moment — you build it by practicing in safe, supported environments.
Our actor-led, experiential training helps people:
- Stay grounded in high-stakes conversations
- Deliver feedback with clarity and compassion
- Respond — not react — in moments of pressure
- Build habits that foster trust and safety, not silence
Final Thought
In a world of hybrid teams, constant change and increasing emotional load, difficult conversations are unavoidable.
But when you build psychological safety, they become not only possible — but productive.
Because it’s not just about what you say.
It’s about the space you create.
If you’d like to know more about our work, visit our website here.
By Simon Coleman | 1948 Co-Founder | Actor | Communication Expert
